This is what holds us back. This is what keeps us from growing and adventuring, trapping us in playing small: the instinctive feeling that we need to grasp tighter, hold back, bound ourselves up in limiting ideas and identities. Our fear-based egos keep us terrified of investing ourselves and our energies in anything not “safe” or guaranteed to “work”, which means that more often than not we do virtually nothing new at all.
Yet, nature gives us the opposite teachings. Nature consistently demonstrates that it’s only in spreading energy in all kinds of places, in all kinds of ways, with no attachment to any one seed in particular that energy and life is regenerated and growth actually can happen.
Over thinking “right” gridlocks our lives. We sit paralyzed until the “right thing” can be done the “right way” at the “right time”. Ugh. And guess what, RIGHT never happens, because there isn’t such a thing. There’s only doing or not doing. Any interpretation of the doing is judgment, totally subjective to the individual perceiving it.
Let’s quit waiting for the stars to align and just get to starting already, whether that’s starting again, starting over, starting anew…
Think of a significant change or transition you made in your life a year or more ago. Can you remember the weather that day? How about the clothes you were wearing? Any idea what your loved ones had on their calendars?
In most cases, none of the details of the first day you started are particularly memorable, because the conditions didn’t matter nearly as much as the fact that you took a leap and began engaging with an adventure.
Some of you may have noticed that I haven’t posted since February. There’s several reasons for that, but the past few weeks the biggest hindrance was artificial pressure regarding this very issue… how to come back, how to re-engage… thankfully, often the answer is in the question, and so here I am, starting again writing and posting with nothing more than the honesty that the fear-based ego is a tricky bugger, and the only remedy is action in-spite of it.
Let’s stop using circumstances and perfectionism as excuses to not get vulnerable, live our passions, and create lives we are fulfilled living. What are you ready to start today?
Keeping your options open is a choice based on the assumption that somehow you are safer or better off preserving a series of outs from your intended course.
Know with every ounce of your being that there are always infinite options available and that at any time you can change your mind, turn around or leap in a different direction entirely. However, also understand that actively cultivating two competing options simultaneously isn’t doing you any favors.
Having one foot in a relationship, career, life change, dream, etc. and one foot out only splits your energy and efforts, undermining the progress of either scenario. More importantly, every time you invest yourself in your “Plan B” (C, D, E…) you effectively send the message to yourself that you either don’t really believe you’re capable and worthy of achieving your Plan A or that you don’t believe you have the wherewithal and creative resiliency to adapt and evolve on the fly when life throws you a curve ball or things don’t roll out exactly as expected.
Both of these are narratives of your fear-based ego. If you breathe that anxiety to the side for a moment, you’ll realize that your intuition knows you are capable and deserving of whatever you most desire. Otherwise, why would you be inspired to dream these dreams in the first place?
Respect yourself, your courage and your soul’s capacity by going all in on what you’re wanting. Stop giving airtime and energy to back up plans that collude with unhealthy limiting beliefs. You’ll only actualize your true power and potential when you stop allowing your fear-based defenses to hold you back.