let go for maximum benefits

Let go of the fear of managing how everything will turn out ever-and particularly as a condition of ever even beginning. The gifts available in trusting life’s magic are always worth more than the temporary comforts of believing you’re in control.

you’re never less

 

How often do you tense up or cringe at the memory or anticipation of making a “mistake” or getting it “wrong”? That’s nothing more than your fear-based ego perpetuating the myth that your safety and worthiness lay exclusively within perfectionism.

Your soul knows better than that. Your authentic self understands that nothing meaningful is born, learned, adventured, grown or changed without taking risks, wandering outside the lines, and on occasion, making a gigantic mess.

There’s no value in feeding anxiety about the doom triggered by alleged shortcomings, missteps or failures. Saddle up to those fears—past, present or future—with a generous serving of curiosity instead.

Reflect on these stories not to shame or alienate yourself, but rather as a means to learn about yourself, others and life. Find inspiration, regardless of outcomes, to continually keep your ego in check and embolden your soul.

Be responsible for your choices and compassionate in your next steps, most importantly with and towards yourself.

You are forever and always, infinitely loved and worthy.

time to shine: step 2

(Part 2 of 4)

2. Declutter your energetic inventory

The untrained mind depletes itself of so much energy needlessly.  The machine of fear-based thinking relentlessly grinds through anxieties, what-if’s, reliving the past, and trying to micromanage the future.  The mental fatigue caused by this only amplifies any feelings of overwhelm or helplessness. 

Mindfulness practices anchoring the mind in the safety and peace of the present are the best protection against these energetic leaks, but most of us haven’t built enough neurological wherewithal for this to be our only line of defense.  Which is why ultimately it’s much easier to clean house (literally and figuratively) every now and again so there aren’t as many mental and emotional demands to ward against.

Consider taking notes for an entire day (a week for the most diligent and committed).  Catalogue each stressful thought, feeling, and interaction, no matter how seemingly small or insignificant.
Cringing every time you open your inbox to find an onslaught of promotional emails?  Continually procrastinating a coffee date?  Loathing some to-do more than the others?  Annoyed by clothes in your closet that haven’t been worn in years?  Smacked with guilt every time you pass by a struggling houseplant?

Write these observations down without judgment.  When the list is compiled, go back through and indentify the underlying reasons each neutral stimulus is being experienced as stressful.  You’ll likely find that often it’s connected to some form of avoidance.  Ask yourself, what are you choosing to not face at the expense of these chronic debits to your energy?

Is it a fear of confronting limited beliefs about abundance (what if you NEED that t-shirt from 1998 someday); a fear of facing narratives about inadequacy (what would people think if you asked for help); a fear of setting boundaries (would everyone hate you if you admitted you didn’t want to _______)?

These persistent drains on your wellbeing are easier to ignore than the screaming stressors, but they add up and take a toll all the same.  Avoiding them, either because you minimize their impact or because you’re scared to resolve the underlying issue, isn’t serving you. 

By decluttering your mind of these “minor” annoyances, you reconnect to your empowerment and free your energetic reserves to tackle more inspired and fulfilling challenges

strength found the last place you look

When faced with pain, heartache, fear and struggle, there is often a gut level reflex to recoil in an attempt to avoid the stressor in front of us.  There’s utilitarian function to the instinct that steers us clear of the real physical dangers that threaten our survival, but when this instinct becomes generalized to the emotional, psychological and social stressors inherent in life, this habit to avoid undermines our true potential.

It’s THROUGH adversity that we gain strength.  It’s by facing our fears, stretching ourselves past what we believed we were capable of, surviving and rising above what once seemed unthinkable that we have a deeper confidence and understanding of the enormity of our capacity and power.

This principle is clear to you in other areas such as your physicality.  You know you must exert your body, strain and literally tear muscle fibers, tolerate challenge, discomfort and usually pain, in order to build stronger, healthier, more effective muscles. 

The same is true for our spirit.  We must not shrink in the face of even overwhelming despair or lose hope in the midst of seemingly bleak unknowns.  Instead, recognize these moments in our lives, these chapters in our history, as the opportunities for our greatest triumph and evolution. 

Seek out mentors.  Ask for help from guides.  Turn inward more often to your own intuition.  Call on the support and camaraderie of your fellow warriors and teammates.  Take breaks as you need them.  BREATHE.  Rest and hydrate often.  But KEEP GOING.  This is the time.  This is the moment.  Greater fortitude, resiliency and healing than ever dreamed possible lies just on the other side of what’s in front of us.