Is there one amongst us who doesn’t lament, “There’s not enough time”?!
Even if you manage to wrestle your ego out of the busybody group think, conscious movers and shakers always have more they want to do, discover, create and love. It’s so easy to feel overwhelmed by limited hours and energy in each day. However, when we catch ourselves speaking like this, we know that we are giving our power away.
Taking responsibility for time by framing it as priorities vs availability can feel a little harsh, but it’s honestly one of the most empowering ways to break old habits and assumptions and motivate ourselves to really take charge of what matters.
Lives aren’t created at the end, when all the things are done. And our legacies shouldn’t exclusively be made up of the moments when we took “time off”. Lives are built minute by minute, every single hour of every single day. It’s always worth stepping back to see if we are inspired, proud and in alignment with what we’re building.
Fear vs. Intuition: How do you tell the difference? Once you start to turn inward for your truth and direction, inevitably there’s the task of discerning between the narration of your fear-based ego and the divine wisdom of your intuition.
There are a few ways to tell them apart, one of which is paying attention to how the message is delivered. Fear is the chatty-cathy voice in your head carrying on and on and on. It will rarely stop talking without your conscious intervention as it presents the arguments for its position in a repeating loop, persistently trying to compel you into doing (or not doing) something.
In order to hear intuition you have to get quiet. Usually its insight is concise and to the point—on average using only a few words or a sentence or two at most. Intuition doesn’t feel like it’s trying to sell you on something, rather it’s simply connecting you to what feels like your own inherent knowing.
You can make room for accessing intuition more readily through the process of meditation, which is largely the practice of not being so attached to all the noisy chatter in your head. You can also access it by simply sitting still, taking a deep breath and asking your highest consciousness, heart, god, whatever resonates with you: “What is my loving truth right now?”
Fear generally motivates more talking, more seeking information outside of yourself, and more restlessness and agitation. Whereas guidance from your intuition will only feel surprising or uncomfortable if it requires you to consider or do things that are outside of what you currently allow yourself. When you connect with intuition there won’t be any confusion about what the most authentic you would choose, it will only be a question of whether you’re going to take action in alignment with your soul rather than try to take refuge in the mandates of your ego.
Over thinking “right” gridlocks our lives. We sit paralyzed until the “right thing” can be done the “right way” at the “right time”. Ugh. And guess what, RIGHT never happens, because there isn’t such a thing. There’s only doing or not doing. Any interpretation of the doing is judgment, totally subjective to the individual perceiving it.
Let’s quit waiting for the stars to align and just get to starting already, whether that’s starting again, starting over, starting anew…
Think of a significant change or transition you made in your life a year or more ago. Can you remember the weather that day? How about the clothes you were wearing? Any idea what your loved ones had on their calendars?
In most cases, none of the details of the first day you started are particularly memorable, because the conditions didn’t matter nearly as much as the fact that you took a leap and began engaging with an adventure.
Some of you may have noticed that I haven’t posted since February. There’s several reasons for that, but the past few weeks the biggest hindrance was artificial pressure regarding this very issue… how to come back, how to re-engage… thankfully, often the answer is in the question, and so here I am, starting again writing and posting with nothing more than the honesty that the fear-based ego is a tricky bugger, and the only remedy is action in-spite of it.
Let’s stop using circumstances and perfectionism as excuses to not get vulnerable, live our passions, and create lives we are fulfilled living. What are you ready to start today?
Procrastination takes a toll on both your energy levels and your spirit. Negative self-talk inevitable in putting things off for tomorrow subtly erodes your self-confidence and belief in your ability to take charge of life. Consider a handful of things you’ve been putting off. Odds are the avoidance is driven by one of three things:
1. You don’t want to—Honestly, this is the easiest dynamic to resolve. If you don’t want to do something, don’t. There’s nothing you HAVE to do. Truly. Of course there’ll be consequences for action and inaction, but you’re in charge of what you take on or let go. If giving yourself permission to say no and delete it from the list feels liberating, do it! If you feel it still needs to be addressed but preferably not by you, outsource it. You don’t have to navigate this journey of life by yourself. Call on your friends and family or hire someone. Often there’ll be something someone you know doesn’t want to do either, and you can share your skillsets and trade energy in a win-win.
2. You don’t believe it’s worth being a priority—If something is “important enough” to write down as a to-do, goal or dream but never enough to get around to, it’s time to get real. Talk is cheap. Actions tell the truth. Dig in to determine whether this actually isn’t a priority (in which case, you have permission to move on) or if it IS a true priority but gets lost in other competing calls for your time and energy (in which case, it’s time for soul searching on who/what you want driving your life (see step 2)).
3. You’re too scared —The biggest beast for sure, when you finally grasp your heart and soul’s true priorities, but your fear-based ego paralyzes you with what-if’s and who-do-you-think-you-are’s. Ugh. There’s so much to say about this. I probably write about the soul-ego tug-of-war more than anything else, but here’s a quick tool to have at the ready: The ego is most scared of the BIG picture, goal, change, thing. If you just limit your focus to the next baby step, ego won’t roar as loud or squeeze as hard. You can always do one small next thing.
Refocus your mind on your power and capacity by promising that today you’ll do one tiny-itty-bitty thing you’ve been putting off: make that naturopath/chiropractor/doctor’s appointment you’ve been thinking about, send a text to that long lost friend that’s been on your mind, google how to travel to your dream destination, unsubscribe to junk mail that overwhelms you, cook that recipe you saved on Pinterest… whatever the THING, don’t think about it for one more minute, just do it and watch it build confidence and momentum for the next step.